This is the fourth look at Emotionally Healthy Success: Measuring What Matters Most to Jesus by Pete Scazzero.[1] You can pre-order the book on Amazon and other sites. If you pre-order today, you can start reading chapter 1 immediately. I recommend that all interested readers do so. You will not regret time spent reading the book.
In Emotionally Healthy Success, Scazzero continues his focus on the role of emotional health in the life of pastors, church leaders, church members, and religious groups.[2] These blogs are not a substitute for the book, which contains much more information and anecdotes than I can provide. Please purchase the book and sign up for some kind of training in Emotionally Healthy Discipleship, which describes what this movement is about. You can find a lot of additional information on the he Emotionally Healthy website at https://www.emotionallyhealthy.org/.
In my earlier blogs, I’ve explored some common misunderstandings about success that many Christian leaders might fall into, along with the misguided ways we often measure success and failure. Thankfully, Scazzero shares the key elements of a fresh, more meaningful scorecard that can help us assess our ministry more honestly. He also introduces two important steps that can genuinely help pastors follow Jesus more closely and disciple others as Jesus envisioned. The two movements are:
Movement 1: Prioritize Personal Formation— breathing in the life of God by the Spirit of Christ. This is the inward work of cultivating your relationship with God and allowing God to deeply form your character.
Movement 2: Prioritize Culture Formation— breathing out the life of God by creating an authentic Christian community. This is the outward work of building community and bearing witness to Christ.[3]
These are two basic changes pastors must make to have an emotionally healthy impact.
Personal Formation in Christ
Traditional Christian leadership formation, especially among Protestants, often lacks an emphasis on personal spiritual formation, leaving pastors emotionally and spiritually ill-equipped to help individuals and the body of Christ in their personal lives. For Protestants, this is a failure of sanctification and intense discipleship, and it results in what Dietrich Bonhoeffer called a kind of unchristian discipleship born of “Cheap Grace.”
Bonhoeffer felt that the Christian church in the West has too often preached and offered what he called Cheap Grace. This perspective highlights his concern about the need for a more genuine and committed approach to faith. [4] Bonhoeffer compared “cheap grace” with “costly grace.” Costly grace is the grace Christ speaks of when he says, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Mark 8:34). Cheap grace is the offer of forgiveness of sins in a way that costs a believer nothing and requires no faithful response. Bonhoeffer describes cheap grace as “preaching of forgiveness without requiring repentance, baptism without church discipline, Communion without confession, absolution without personal confession. This was a terrible mistake. “Cheap Grace,” he said, “is the deadly enemy of our Church.” [5] Cheap grace is grace without discipleship, grace without the cross, grace without Jesus Christ, living and incarnate.”[6]
In terms of pastoral preparation, especially in what used to be called “mainline” churches in America, the emphasis was on preaching and on pastors as “theologians in residence,” as one of my seminary leaders put it. Unfortunately, this is not what Jesus had in mind, nor is it what the church needs. What the church needs is “Little Imperfect Jesuses in Residence.” Generations of pastors have been prepared and sent out to serve churches without developing the spiritual character needed to truly move people along the path of discipleship. The resulting devastation is all around us.
For about six years, I was either on or served as the chairman of a committee within the ministry of a local church body. During that time, I had the opportunity to help congregations recover from what I can only call pastoral spiritual malpractice. Many of these failed pastors were emotionally immature and brought that immaturity into the life of a local congregation in an unhealthy way. Occasionally, they also lacked fundamental pastoral skills and the emotional intelligence to get along with people. Mainline seminaries and the supervisory bodies that send people to seminary are responsible for failing to detect serious emotional problems before a person is admitted to seminary and for failing to provide every student with the spiritual and emotional tools needed to be successful.
In Emotionally Healthy Success, Scazzero outlines eight qualities from the life of Jesus that are necessary for an emotionally and spiritually successful religious leader:
- Be with God. Jesus prioritized being with God before doing for God (Luke 3:21–23; 4:1–14; 5:15–16).
- Listen to God. Jesus slowed down to listen for God’s voice before
making decisions (Matthew 26:36–46; Mark 1:35; Luke 6:12; John 5:19–20; 8:28).
- Break Free of the Broken Past. Jesus broke free from family and cultural expectations to form the new family of God (Mark 3:20–22, 31–35; John 8:48–49, 59).
- Embrace Holiness of Life. Jesus stewarded his sexual life (in his case singleness) as a prophetic sign of God’s love for the world (Matthew 19:11–12; John 10:30; 17:21–23).
- Seek Emotional Wholeness. Jesus engaged the full range of emotions— from painful to joyful— as a doorway to God and deeper wisdom (Matthew 26:37; Mark 3:5; 6:6; 14:34; Luke 10:21; 19:41).
- Be Present with People. Jesus was intentional about being fully present with others (Mark 5:25–34; 10:13–16; 10:21; John 3–4).
- Learn to Communicate Honestly, Wisely, and Lovingly. Jesus cultivated honest relationships by engaging in difficult conversations when necessary (Matthew 16:23; 23:27; Mark 8:31–38; 10:17–22).
- Live within Your Limits. Jesus joyfully received the gift of limits to fulfill God’s
will and purpose (Matthew 15:24; Mark 1:35–38; 4:38; Luke 5:15–16; John 5:19; 17:4).[7]
Community Formation in Christ
If seminaries do a poor job of personal Christian formation, they do just as poor a job in training pastors in the art of forming a Christian community. This is surprising on several levels. Fundamentally, it involves a failure to recognize that Jesus spent his entire ministry forming a community, training its future leaders, and creating what would become his church, which is to be the family of God or even the kingdom of God on earth. If we are to send representatives of Christ into local congregations, they need to be equipped and trained to do what Jesus did.
The reasons for the failure to adequately prepare pastors are complex, but fundamentally the church formed an early alliance with the Roman government that let it rely on external factors for its presence and importance in society. In America, where no church was established, there was still a cultural expectation that large numbers of people would attend church, and some would find meaning and purpose in providing Church leadership. Unfortunately, those days are past.
Churches today must take seriously the need to create leaders who can create congregations with a church culture that enables the growth of what is sometimes called “the provisional Kingdom of God,” that is, a healthy church that models for the world what God intends for human relationships and reaches out with the wisdom and love of God to transform its community. Scazzero sets out eight marks that a local church is forming a culture in the Way of Jesus:
- Divine Relationship. Jesus fostered a culture in which being with him came before doing for him (Mark 3:14; Luke 10:38–42).
- Divine Listening. Jesus cultivated a culture in which decisions flowed from listening to God’s voice (Matthew 17:5; John 10:27; Acts 1:12–15; 13:1–4).
- New, Healthy Community. Jesus formed a culture that enabled people to break free from unhealthy family-of-origin patterns and past emotional and spiritual wounds, so they could live freely in the new family of Jesus (Luke 9:57-62; 14:25-35).
- Marriage and Singleness. Jesus formed a culture that equipped both married people and singles to live as prophetic signs of God’s love for the world (Matthew 19:4–6, 10–12; 22:29–32).
- Caring Community. Jesus fostered a culture of honesty, love, and trust, in which people no longer needed to hide or pretend (Luke 6:35–37; John 13:34–35).
- Personal Deep Discipleship. Jesus cultivated a culture that prioritized deep discipleship among the few and employed a layered strategy throughout his ministry (Matthew 28:18–20; Luke 6:12–18; 10:1–17).
- Inclusive Community. Jesus proclaimed the gospel in ways that broke down walls among people and brought good news to the poor and marginalized (Matthew 9:35–36; 15:24; 25:31–36; John 20:21).
- Christlike Leadership. Jesus cultivated a culture in which leaders taught and exercised authority rooted in their transformed lives with God (Mark 1:35–39; Luke 4:1–17; 22:31–32).[8]
I am sure that readers and others could develop a slightly different list, but the point is simple: The primary duty of a Christian leader is to create a community that models the triune love of God in a particular place.
The Truly Transformed Leader
These lists might make developing a post-corporate Church culture and a Christ-centered ministry seem simpler than it is. The fact is that even the most committed church leaders with strong biblical and theological backgrounds are part of contemporary American corporate and bureaucratic culture. It is best, therefore, to think of these characteristics as helpful markers. You can add your own specific markers for your local church or denomination to show that leaders and churches are steadily making progress. The goal is to become the kind of people and organic Christlike church body that God ultimately intends for everyone.
A strength of Emotionally Healthy Discipleship, which is also a point of incompleteness, is that Pete is trying to write a book to help churches, both traditional and contemporary, across all historic denominations. One thing he can’t address, therefore, is the specifics of leadership in terms of whether it is Episcopal, Reformed, Free Church, Apostolic, Democratic, or whatever. This is an area in which every church or group that embraces Emotionally Healthy Discipleship must make its own choices and craft the underlying program and ideas suited to its situation and needs.
Similarly, various streams of Christianity would find minor differences in the kind of pastoral and community formation that best fits their particular way of being a church. In my case, and as a hint of where I believe all churches should be headed, the theological and other divisions of the Reformation no longer excite the next generation of Christians, nor do they point the way toward a renewed Christian culture. One reason I’ve been so interested in the Emotionally Healthy Discipleship movement is that Pete Scazzero is careful to draw on church history, especially the period before the Great Schism, for inspiration. I think it’s the right move. This may be a hard move for some groups, but it’s worth undertaking. This does not mean that groups must give up their unique identity. It means incorporating what has been lost into the present-day church.
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[1] Pete Scazzero, Emotionally Healthy Success: Measuring What Matters Most to Jesus (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2026. This, the last and the remaining blogs in this series are inspired by this book. I was given the opportunity to review an advance copy of the book, which I recommend to interested readers.
[2] Peter Scazzero, The Emotionally Healthy Church (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2003, 2010). Emotionally Healthy Discipleship: Moving from Shallow Christianity to Deep Transformation (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2021). For those who wish to read all of his books, see Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, updated ed. (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2017), and The Emotionally Healthy Leader: How Transforming your Inner Life will Deeply Transform your Church, Team, and World (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2017).
[3] Emotionally Healthy Success, 82. A full examination of these two movements occupies Chapters 4 and 5 of the book.
[4] Dietrich Bonhoeffer, The Cost of Discipleship Rev. Ed. (New York, NY: Collier Books, 1963. See, G. Christopher Scruggs, Crisis of Discipleship: Renewing the Art of Relational Disciplemaking (Richmond, VA: Living Dialog 2023).
[5]Id, at 45.
[6]Id, at 47.
[7] Id, 92-93.
[8] Id, 109-111.











